Sometimes it can really feel like there are a million things going on in your life at once, that there isn’t much time to focus on anything else, including yourself. I think everyone, including myself, is guilty of not being able to switch off and take time out for themselves. I try to make time for self-care most days, even if it’s something as simple as using a hair mask or settling down to read a good book with a hot drink, it makes all the difference. Here are my top ten favourite ways ways to relax and de-stress.
Bubble Bath & Pj’s
The very first thing I do when I get home is have a shower (or bubble bath if I have the time!) and put on my pj’s and dressing gown for the evening. Sounds so simple, but putting on pj’s helps me to feel cosy and completely switch off from the day. If you have read my blog before, you will know that as well as my love for candles, I love bath bombs, and a bath for me is not complete without one! I’m a big fan of Lush and more recently Bomb Cosmetics – If you haven’t heard of them you can find them here: https://bombcosmetics.co.uk/
Whenever I’m in need of some relaxation time or feeling anxious, I find nothing helps calm me quite like a good book. Reading really helps me to zone out for a while, and immerses my mind in a completely different world. I’m currently reading He Said/She Said by Erin Kelly, which I am already finding myself engrossed in. Magazines are also a nice way to relax, again it helps you to relax your mind and can provide some laughs – a particular favourite is the Hey, it’s Ok section in Glamour magazine.
I’m a self confessed candle junkie, I absolutely love candles and have filled every room of my apartment with them. Candles can make a room go from average to a cosy hygge dream in seconds. I don’t go for particular scents, as there are so many good ones, but some of my favourites are Candy Cane Lane from Yankee Candle, Cappucino Truffle from Homeware, White Jasmine and Mint & by Jo Malone. Candles are a definite must for a cosy evening!
If I’m not currently reading anything and don’t feel in the headspace to start a new book, I find watching a movie/tv series is the next best thing. After a hectic week it can be quite nice to get cosy with a cup of tea and settle down to watch something. I find this helps to relax my mind and focus on the entertainment rather than any niggling worries. If you’re after some new show ideas these are some of my top picks:
- Game of Thrones
- The Walking Dead
- House of Cards
- Amercian Horror Story
- Peep Show
- The Affair
- Orange is the New Black
Over the years I have turned into one of those people who are slightly obsessed with making lists, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I find making lists helps me to feel more organised and productive as I know what I want to complete (plus there are very little things more satisfying than crossing something off of your to-do list). My favourite list to write is in the first week of January, it is my resolution/goals for that year, which I then look back on a year later and cross of everything that I have achieved on my list. Lists are super handy for breaking things down and helping you prioritise what is most important. Confession – yes, I may also be one of those people who will add something they have already completed to their to-do list just so I can cross it off.
Music can be really good at helping you to reflect and feel, as we can associate songs with memories/people/feelings. I use Spotify and create playlists for most things like the gym, my walk to work, those days where you just need a little pick me up, and ones filled with old classics, it’s a fun way to have something on hand to play music to whatever mood you’re feeling.
When I’m feeling stressed or anxious I find cleaning really helps me to relax and forget whatever was causing me to worry. There’s something about tidying your space which makes it feel like you’re tidying your mind too.
Normally when Ryan and I have a day off together and no other plans we will have a date day aka spending time together doing something we both enjoy. This can be anything from going out for lunch/dinner and to see a film, or a day of exploring and walks etc. I really look forward to these as they allow us to shut off completely and have a day of fun. Date days don’t have to be expensive; some of the best are when you don’t spend money and go exploring.
Last year colouring books made a real come back and had proved helpful to those who were stressed or anxious, as it helps you to focus on colouring the picture rather than what you are worried about. I thought it couldn’t hurt to try one, and then Ryan surprised me with a Fantastic Beasts one (because who doesn’t love Harry Potter and co?). It’s true what they say, you become totally absorbed in it, so much so, that you don’t realise an hour has passed and you haven’t even had one single thought about what was worrying you earlier.
Everyone has different ways of relaxing and switching off, what are your favourites? Let me know!